Conflicts are normal in a marriage for these can help you grow together as a couple. But if both of you don’t know how to handle or overcome conflicts, you might end up hurting each other that can lead you through making wrong decisions.
To overcome conflicts, first, you need to have an open COMMUNICATION. Conflicts can never be solved with silence, you need to talk it over and don’t let them stay until the sunlight comes up. In the scripture Ephesians 4:26-27 “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. You have to understand that you made a vow with each other and before the Lord that you will stay together through thick and thin, so whenever you’ll encounter disagreements, don’t sleep until the problem has been solved. Your marriage is more important than your pride. Don’t make any decisions when you are consumed by your emotions. Don’t let the enemy stir up the word “divorce” in your marriage because that is not the solution. In Matthew 19:6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Believe that God has joined you together as one intentionally with a purpose, and that is to make God known in your marriage.
Second, you have to be more UNDERSTANDING with each other. Realize that your spouse is not perfect. He or she has also has his or her own lapses but that shouldn’t be the basis of your love for him or her. God has united you together to fill each other’s gap. According to Ephesians 4:32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Choose to forgive your spouse like how God forgave you.
Lastly, you have to LOVE EACH OTHER WITH GOD’s LOVE. In Romans 5:8 “ but God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” He decided to love us despite of who we are and not we ought to be. If we’ll love our spouse with a human love then I believe we won’t survive, because human love is selfish but the love of God is unconditional and selfless. So we have to ask God to be the vessel of His love towards our spouse.
Marriage is a teamwork, both of you should pay the price, this team won’t work if the both of you doesn’t understand your goal. Your goal is to glorify God in your marriage. Give your best for this marriage to grow. Philippians 4:13 “I can do all this through Him who gives me strength.” You have to understand that the strength that your marriage has should come from our Lord Jesus Christ. He should be the foundation of your marriage for there is no firmer foundation than Jesus Himself.