Marriage Advice

Become Man, Wife and God: Nurturing a Spiritually-based Marriage

When you got married, the officiant likely ended the ceremony by introducing you and your spouse as man and wife for the first time. Did you know that someone was left out in that introduction? Marriage isn’t, after all, a relationship between two people. It’s a relationship between two people and God.
What if, however, you’ve pushed God aside in the marriage as a silent partner? How do you and your spouse make Him an active participant again? Here are three tips for cultivating a faith-centered marriage:


Pray Together

When we pray honestly, we are laid bare. We reveal our vulnerabilities. We drop pretext. Is there anything more intimate than this? Even more significant, however, is that praying together invites Christ directly into your relationship. Remember, in Matthew 18:20 Jesus says, “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”

Read Scripture Together. Study Scripture together

The Bible is the living word of God. When we schedule a time to read scripture together, we are saying God’s message to us is important. We are making our faith a priority. When we study scripture together we delve into a deeper understanding of God’s word and what it means for our lives and our relationship.

Count Your Blessings

Today ‘busy’ is the norm. You likely feel as if you juggle more than you relax or that you run more than you sit still. Being stressed and tired makes it easier for our eyes to sharpen the negatives and blur the positives out of focus. It becomes a reflex to see where our partner is not measuring up to some standard we’ve set or to notice the little things that are wearing our patience down. It’s hard to be happy, especially happy with one another when we’re focusing on the imperfections. Taking time each day to focus on the good things about your partner and your life together brings the positive back into focus. More importantly, thank God for those blessings.


Challenge: This week, make God the center of your marriage. Pick a piece of scripture that speaks to you both. Pray over it. Discuss it. Take a moment each day to pray together. Make sure to thank God for your blessings when you do. What scripture speaks most to you and your spouse? What are you grateful for today?

After many years of successful relationships in my own life, my mission is to pass on the blessings I’ve received to the many people seeking help in their own lives. I not only help to restore broken marriages, but also friendships, relationships, families etc. I am a faith-based marriage and relationship coach with a mission: To build stronger marriages through faith; to deepen the spirituality of the individual and the couple by accepting an open minded cornerstone of the marriage; to strengthen the communication, commitment, and respect within a marriage through a focus on gratitude, and love.