Faith,  Marriage Advice

Godly marriage: Bitterness over Forgiveness or Forgiveness over Bitterness?


There are a lot of things that can make you feel bitter inside your marriage. Imagine two imperfect people living under one roof and exposing each other’s strengths and weaknesses. These could stumble both of you. A day will not be enough if you could enumerate valid reasons to be bitter. Bitterness is the main reason most marriages die, and we must stop it through forgiveness.

It’s hard to forgive, especially when you felt like you were treated unfairly by your spouse. You chose to remain silent rather than take action since you were unaware of harboring resentments toward your spouse. One of the errors that married individuals frequently make is this one. Your marriage won’t improve through passivity. It can only break your marriage. Learn how to handle misunderstandings by discussing them without being consumed by anger or hatred. Remember it is not okay to be consumed with your emotions in a discussion. Let it cool down first. Anger is a natural reaction whenever a person has been treated unfairly. But remember in the scripture Ephesians 4:26 In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Getting furious is acceptable, but make sure you won’t let it control you. Because it’s so difficult to let go of bitterness on your own, our Lord Jesus Christ gave us the Holy Spirit to help us in all of our situations, even those involving bitterness.

Is it really hard to forgive? Yes and no. Yes, if you are just thinking about yourself alone and if you are being self-centered. No, if you choose to let go of your pride and allow forgiveness to sink into each other’s hearts. Forgiveness is a choice, though you may not feel like it, you have to forgive. Colossians 3:13, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Keep in mind that God has given you His forgiveness even if you are unworthy because He loves you. Let the love of God arise in your marriage. Surrender your bitterness to God. Allow Him to heal you from the inside out, and choose to forgive your spouse even if it contradicts your heart’s desire. You’ll undoubtedly experience a breakthrough and inner tranquility while you accomplish this. How wonderful it is to enjoy God’s love in your marriage while sleeping next to one other without harboring any resentments. After all, God wants both of you to be joyful in His presence together, not to be bitter but to be better.

After many years of successful relationships in my own life, my mission is to pass on the blessings I’ve received to the many people seeking help in their own lives. I not only help to restore broken marriages, but also friendships, relationships, families etc. I am a faith-based marriage and relationship coach with a mission: To build stronger marriages through faith; to deepen the spirituality of the individual and the couple by accepting an open minded cornerstone of the marriage; to strengthen the communication, commitment, and respect within a marriage through a focus on gratitude, and love.