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Language of Love: 3 Things to Tell Your Spouse daily

The Bible tells us King Solomon was the wisest man that ever lived. For example, his 3,000 proverbs (1 Kings 4:32) comprise the often quoted Book of Proverbs. He also is responsible for the Song of Solomon, a biblical love story. In this book, Solomon blessed, encouraged and praised his wife throughout the 8 chapters. Solomon was indeed wise and his love story ought to serve model for our own.


It’s easy to remember his example when we’re dating, and even when we’re newlyweds. As the years add up and the daily grind settles in – well, it becomes easy to forget the Bible’s most romantic set of verses. It’s time to get it back. When you’re writing out your to-do list for the day, make sure you include these three things for a better stronger relationship:

Bless your spouse

The verb “bless” can be defined as seeking God’s protection and care on behalf of another or conferring prosperity and happiness. Just imagine if you began each day seeking God’s care and protection for your spouse and/or prayed for your spouse’s happiness. Now, what if this is something you prayed – not just for your spouse – but with your spouse?

Encourage your spouse

Sometimes the most effective weapon against our insecurities and doubts is another person’s faith in us. Be one another’s a cheerleader. Take a moment every day to tell your spouse that you believe in him or her.

Praise your spouse

In the Song of Solomon, the king does not grumble at his wife nor does she gripe at him. Instead, they find the good in one another and celebrate it. Solomon, for instance, frequently praised the brilliance, power, and beauty of his wife. Spend some time today noticing something admirable about your spouse, and be sure to let her know.


Challenge: Heed Solomon’s example. Every day this week bless, encourage and praise your spouse. Notice the way this changes the dynamic of your relationship.

After many years of successful relationships in my own life, my mission is to pass on the blessings I’ve received to the many people seeking help in their own lives. I not only help to restore broken marriages, but also friendships, relationships, families etc. I am a faith-based marriage and relationship coach with a mission: To build stronger marriages through faith; to deepen the spirituality of the individual and the couple by accepting an open minded cornerstone of the marriage; to strengthen the communication, commitment, and respect within a marriage through a focus on gratitude, and love.