As discussed in previous blog posts here and here, praying together is a powerful component of a God-centered marriage. Surely we know we should pray together, but let’s be honest, many of us have struggled to make praying together a cornerstone of our marriages. There are many reasons why couples keep joint prayer time on the back burner. Regardless of what has put it there for you, here are four tips to make prayer part of your daily relationship.
Make a prayer date: We have a way of making time for our priorities. We commit to a time and date for those things we want or need to fit into our lives. We make a note on our calendars and avoid schedule conflicts. Make praying as a couple a priority. Pick a time that works for both of you and stick with it.
Short and sweet: Sometimes we avoid praying out loud, even with our loved ones, because we worry whether our prayers are good enough to be heard. We have an idea of what prayer should sound like and we doubt our ability to meet that ideal. Put that thought aside. God isn’t requiring anything fancy or formal from you and neither is your spouse. Agree that prayers should be simple and heartfelt.
Pray don’t preach: You are praying with your spouse, not at them. This isn’t the time to address with God the foibles and faults you wish your spouse would discard. Unless your spouse has asked for prayer in a certain aspect of their lives, leave your concerns of such to private prayer time, not together prayer time.
Embrace silence: It’s ok to start prayer time together in silent prayer. Your goal is to be together, praying. If you’re not yet ready to do so out loud, that’s ok. Find a quiet space to sit together. Hold hands and just pray your silent prayers.
Challenge: Set aside time this week to pray together. What time will you carve out and how will you pray?