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Wife, is it really hard to submit to your husband?

Wife, is it really hard to submit to your husband

“I should be the one handling this situation. I’m the wife and this is my expertise.” “He should not tell me what to do, I have my rights.” These are some of the complaints husbands receive from their wives. Now, it all sums up with the word SUBMISSION. Is it hard for a wife to submit to her husband?

Nowadays, submission is really a big issue between a husband and a wife, and if this is not applied properly in a marriage, this can lead to burnout. If not prevented, unfortunately, it can lead to a divorce, which is depressing. Submission to your husband is a difficult thing to do if you don’t fully understand the reason why you are doing it.

According to Ephesians 5:22-24, Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” 

It was stated that wives should submit themselves to their husbands. Like how we should present ourselves as the church to Christ. Some people might think of this verse differently, they might think that submission is about controlling, but in this context, it is not. As a wife, you must understand that your husband is already a team member and the team’s unquestionable leader at the same moment you and he made a pledge to each other and to the Lord. If you’ll review the bible, in the book of Genesis, Adam came first in this world, and Eve was made out of his ribs. That simply shows that God has given Adam a role, as the head of the family. As a wife, it’s not about you arguing with him because you are right, rather, you should be his supporter, intercessor, and helping hand to build a Godly generation.

Let us not forget about TRUST. If God is the center of your marriage, then you should learn how to trust God as he appointed your husband to be the leader of your family. Trust him, and allow him to take over his responsibilities as a husband to you and as a father to your children. Let him feel his role, as he will let yours, too. This will help you both grow together in building your family in the Lord.

It takes humility to submit to your husband. It might be hard since as human beings, we were born with a self-centered nature. Just let the love of God motivate you in doing this. Let your obedience be a pleasing aroma to God. After all, obedience is the greatest form of worship, just as Jesus obeyed His Father.

After many years of successful relationships in my own life, my mission is to pass on the blessings I’ve received to the many people seeking help in their own lives. I not only help to restore broken marriages, but also friendships, relationships, families etc. I am a faith-based marriage and relationship coach with a mission: To build stronger marriages through faith; to deepen the spirituality of the individual and the couple by accepting an open minded cornerstone of the marriage; to strengthen the communication, commitment, and respect within a marriage through a focus on gratitude, and love.